It seems almost ironic to have a post about goals…after all, all 26 of these posts are about goals. Taking stock of where I am, looking at where I want to go and how to get there.
So what would a separate post about goals cover that the other 25 won’t?
Well, the fact that I’m blogging 26 times to start the year for one.
I was inspired by a book about journaling, as I said earlier, and so I created a list of 26 items to blog about in January. I’ve covered A-F already, will do H-Z after this. For today, it is about how I’m doing on managing my goals.
I took a break before Christmas after writing twice about my writing goals and trying to apply the PACE methodology (primary, alternate, contingency, emergency) to setting priorities. It doesn’t quite fit, but I think I found a way to structure it. I’ll try to do the same for a few others, and when I’m done Z, I’ll do some sort of wrap-up and prioritization exercise.
Over the course of the year, though, I’m going to look at some other “insights” aka popular books about goals. Mel Robbins is huge in the popular press these days, and while I fear it’ll turn out to be the motivational equivalent of the decluttering fad about whether something gave you joy, I want to read what she has to say.
I also need to check in on my 60×60 list and see how I’m doing, which will likely kick off in February.
In the meantime, I have a new little tool. They sell these little whiteboards that look a bit like keyboards (about the same length and width) with a surface to write on and wipe off. It is designed to sit on your desk in between your keyboard and your monitor and give you a place to take notes, set a to do list, etc. I love it. Andrea and Jacob got me one for Christmas and I liked it so much, I ordered a second one to sit on my work desk, too. It’s perfect for my short-term to do list as I rarely like digital apps for managing smaller bits.
I thought I knew what this item would be about up until today. I was going to write about board games. Andrea, Jacob and I play board or card games almost every night after dinner, sometimes even at lunch if we need a break from work, and sometimes during the day on the weekend.
We have even done a “tournament of games” this past year where I tracked who won all the games we played so we could see who was the grandmaster for the year (I have to still total up Q4 — Jacob won 2 of the first quarters, Andrea won 1, and I was equivalent of a “ball return” in bowling, I passed the cards back to the next dealer). And we’ll do it again this year.
I’ll also add some Lego activities, some video games with Jacob, etc. and some more activities outside the house with Andrea (more walking, most likely). Plus whatever comes if I retire this year.
But then today happened.
We got some really good news on one of Jacob’s health-related issues. I’d love to brag about it, but well, it’s not really my story to tell. And it isn’t necessarily amazing to anyone who doesn’t know Jacob’s story. The average person would think it was no big deal. But it was huge for Jacob, and one of the rare occasions I have seen him almost bubbling over in the last few difficult years. He’s not the most emotional of kids outwardly, but he was tickled pink today at his own performance.
And so I wonder if I need to think more about the family item and related goals. Most of the time since 2020, we’ve been looking for an “absence of bad news”, or some form of manageable normalcy. Actual good news has been rare.
That sounds a bit harsh, I know. We had good times in 2025, for example, I’m not saying we didn’t. We took a great trip to BC and saw some amazing things. And Jacob had a great time in the mountains, as expected. Switchbacks weren’t much fun for me, but the rest of the trip “worked” most of the time.
But I realized today that almost all of our family life comes with an asterisk. And while there is still an asterisk on the stuff today with Jacob, it’s a small asterisk and likely to disappear. It may not, but we’re taking the win for now.
How do I harness more of THAT awesome sauce than the “absence of bad” that we’ve been dealing with? We need more of those moments to celebrate. And it doesn’t have to be big wins.
Yesterday, Andrea had an appointment late in the morning, I drove over to pick her up, and we were both free together at lunch. So we stopped at Kettleman’s for a bagel lunch, BLT for her and club for me. Just a nice leisurely lunch, no kid, no appointments to get to, not rushed to get back to work, no work to talk about, just chatting. It was really nice, something we haven’t done in a while. Unrushed. Kind of the type of lunch or outings I would like more of in my retirement, although Andrea likely won’t retire quite yet.
Is it too simplistic to just say that I want “bigger”? More positive oomph in our lives?
This is a bit of a hard category to nail down. Obviously, everything we do is an “experience” in some way. And I obviously don’t mean simply that…
On the other hand, I’m also not sure if I ONLY mean big experiences. Retiring would be big, but not an experience; going to the circus would be an experience, but not necessarily big.
I guess that I’m more talking about doing things that are not part of my ordinary world. Or perhaps even more simply, things that take effort to do. D&D, even, takes effort.
We’re going to go see Singin’ in the Rain at Centerpointe in June, and it sort of counts, I think.
Usually, I would include various restaurants in the list, except that I don’t have a list at the moment of “must try” restaurants. I should, I suppose, although my interest seems pedestrian…I was following a guy on FB who created a group centred around “Club Sandwiches,” which he called “Clubbing for Cancer” — trying to find the best club sandwich in Ottawa while fighting cancer. He lost his battle, unfortunately, but the group is still active and I liked the premise. I thought of doing wings, but it’s often subjective; burgers, pizza, etc. are all overdone (sometimes literally). But I do have this idea for going out for a simple breakfast — eggs (sunny side, of course), toast, bacon, juice. Home fries if available. Maybe sausages. Normally, no, for bacon or anything else. I don’t really think of that as “an experience” necessarily, but I do have a list of some 70 places that people suggested. I’ve done 3 so far. I tried to tick the box for another one between Christmas and New Years and it was JAMPACKED. Not a relaxing vibe at all. But I’ll probably do a few more over the next year.
I could include astronomy viewings, but again, not really what I’m thinking of, that’s kind of separate.
I am a member of the Capital Crime Writers group, I suppose that would count for an outing to hear a guest speaker.
I could also benefit from a simple baking course, if I could find one that isn’t during the day (I’m not retired yet!).
And I am still thinking about a retreat weekend sometime. Just me and my thoughts.
Oh, and if I get a chance to ride an e-bike or drive a jetski or boat, that would count too.
That’s about it. I’m not dreaming big this year. I did the Bouchercon last year, and we went to BC, even went to an orchard and picked apples (I’ve always wanted to do it and never went!) but this year will be more about home stuff, saving the gusto perhaps for Egypt in May 2027.
Until then, I’ll have to noodle some more stuff. Feel free to suggest out-of-the-ordinary things to try.
There are several areas I want to explore this year in the realm of computers, IT, and websites.
1. I want to tidy up my backups. I’m a bit behind, easy to do, but I need to catch up.
2. At some point, I have to figure out my carousel on the PolyWogg site. I created a pseudo-carousel, large header, and well, it doesn’t work for me. Yet.
3. I guess I also want to do something with the look and feel of the PolyWogg site as well when it comes to blog entries that are “sub-areas” — the main blog pages show perfectly, the sub-areas not so much. I’m missing something small to tweak, haven’t wrapped my head around it.
4. I want to do something with old computers. I have some I want to convert into game players, and I’m going to set up one PC to run 3D printing. It’s not urgent, but it will take a dedicated two or three days to sort it out enough to begin work. This includes re-purposing and maybe even jailbreaking an iPad. I’ve looked it for fun recently, just cuz I wanted to see how hard it is/would be, and you know what? Not that hard.
5. But if I set up the computer to 3D print, I also need to set up the 3D printer. That is a bit more complicated. The new one should be relatively easy, but the old one is a mess of pain.
6 Much more elaborate, I have plans for two apps. One is astronomy-related; the other trivia-ish. But I think they’re going to have to wait for retirement. The effort required to get into programming is just too much overall to dabble.
7. I mentioned in my book list that I want to read stuff about AI, and perhaps it should be here too, although I think it is more for my L is for Learning side of things.
8. I’m also not very proficient in a couple of pieces of software that I need to work with in the future — GIMP will be my basic editor of choice for photos, and I have a full training program to help me get better at using it. At least for the basics, astrophotography will require more work. But I also have ideas for the future that will involve video, and my wife and son got me a green screen setup for Christmas. So I’m mostly ready to go, I just need to double down on what I want to create and figure out which software packages I’m going to use. I have a bunch, but not sure which ones are best for what I’m going to be doing. That may take until late fall to figure out though.
And that’s it. Pretty linear, pretty straightforward.
I am somewhat obsessed with methodologies for goal-setting, performance measurement, tracking, and motivation.
When I kept seeing an interesting clip from the movie, Rebel Ridge, starring Aaron Pierre and Don Johnson, I had to watch the whole movie. In the film, Pierre is trying to get his cousin out on bail, not realizing that the system is rigged and nothing he does will work. When he does realize it, he goes to the police station to talk to the Chief. In the clip (attached below), we learn that he is a military instructor who has to deal with a lot of acronyms. The one he’s most interested in is PACE, which he explains was originally designed for Comms systems — priority, alternate, contingency, and emergency.
And it is relatively easy to understand for Comms, even without a military angle. Say, for example, that you are looking after your aging parents and need to stay in regular contact with them. Your primary communication method might be a cellphone if you’re in a city. Your alternate method might be a landline, your contingency might be email or text, and your emergency option might be in-person. Easy-peasy.
However, Pierre’s character notes that it can be used as a planning methodology for various purposes, including his specific goals. In the movie, the Marine’s primary means of retrieving his cousin was to take cash to the courthouse and pay his cousin’s bail. Except the cops intervened and confiscated his cash, at least temporarily. His alternate was a special deal with the Chief, who basically reneged on the deal and f***ed him over. Contingency was an alternate way to replace his cash through other means, but the Chief messed that up, too. Which has the Marine “burning through letters” and they don’t want to see what happens when he gets to E (emergency). As an aside, I keep seeing references to how Rebel Ridge is an homage to First Blood with Pierre as Stallone’s Rambo character, and Johnson in the role of Gault; while the movie’s okay, it’s no First Blood.
Here’s the clip of the scene:
Understanding the elements for planning
While the acronym is a plot device for the film, it is actually a real planning methodology. In the example I used above, there are four methods for communicating with the person’s aging parents on a daily basis:
P: Primary — Cellphone
A: Alternate — Landline
C: Contingency — Maybe email or text
E: Emergency — In-person
For the movie, it was:
P: Primary — Cash in backpack
A: Alternate — Deal with chief
C: Contingency — Alternate cash being wired
E: Emergency — The second half of the movie
You can easily see how that would/could also apply to a military or rescue system for communications. Essentially, sliding down a scale of expected utility and effectiveness to what may be a last-ditch method:
P: Primary — Top of the line encrypted comms
A: Alternate — Cellphone
C: Contingency — Public systems
E: Emergency — Short-wave radio
In different scenarios, the order might change or there might be totally different options including walkie talkies, flags, etc.
It seemed awesome and fairly robust as a tool. When I searched online for other examples where it was being used, I found a bunch of suggestions, with probably the most likely one being fitness. One example of this use is shown below.
P: Primary — Full gym workout + fully controlled diet for all meals and snacks
A: Alternate — Home workout with hand weights + pre-prepared meals
C: Contingency — Rest day + healthy meal choices for take-out
E: Emergency — Minimal activity + multi-vitamins
Again, it looks good. And with its focus on “other options”, it would work well where goals might have multiple paths to achieve them on any given day. Scalability seems baked in, hierachy/priority preference, etc. And if the military is using it, that’s an added plus — not because it’s the military, but simply because they can test it with people of different mental attitudes and approaches, and see if it works.
But can I use PACE for other types of goals? Let’s start by recasting previous examples into an easier-to-compare tool.
(example)
P Primary
A Alternate
C Contingency
E Emergency
(comment)
Comms
Encrypted state-of-the-art system
Cellphone
Public system
Short-wave radio
Can vary by circumstance
Bailing out cousin (movie)
Cash in a backpack
Deal with chief
Money being wired
The rest of the movie
Popular exercise example online
Full gym workout + fully controlled diet
Home workout + Prepared meals
Rest day + Healthy takeout
Minimal activity + Multivitamins
It starts to look like you CAN, indeed, use it for other goals. Except when you start looking at rows 1 and 2 against 3, you notice some differences.
First and foremost, the goal is changing from something concrete and discrete — communicate with someone, bail out cousin — to something more general like “exercise”.
Second, while all three have hierarchical levels between P, A, C and E, the exercise ones are not quite replaceable choices. With Comms, it doesn’t matter whether you use a full in-house solution for Comms or a cellphone or even short wave radio. While encryption and privacy were nice to have, they weren’t critical to the goal — the goal is communications. Any of the four options meet that goal. Similarly, for the movie example…any of the four options can get the cousin out of jail. While P is easier than A, C or E, they all accomplish the goal.
When it comes to the exercise goal, though, the solutions are not equal. A full gym workout is great, and is the primary method **if you can do it that day**. If you can’t, for whatever reason, you move to alternate which is a home workout with hand weights. It’s not as good, but sure, if your goal is exercise in general, it meets the criteria. But then you come to C being perhaps a rest day or D minimal activity when your body needs to heal. Neither of those are meeting the original goal. They are hierachical, definitely, but they are NOT equal alternatives. Similarly for the food, the first option is to do full diet control for proteins and minerals, and carbs for fuel. And moving to A or C could arguably be listed as “fuel without ingesting crappy food” that might work against your health goals. But by the time you get to E, and you’re down to just multi-vitamins, that is not an equivalent method to achieve the same thing. Or, more pointedly, you could take MVs on ANY of the four options too.
For the food, it might be more like Primary being fully self-prepared meals from healthy ingredients + portion control + healthy recipe; Alternate might be pre-prepared healthy meals that use organic ingredients + portion control, more steaming / less frying, etc.; Contigency might be that it may not be completely “healthy” eating, but it was all prepared at home, less processed foods, etc.; and the emergency food fuel might be takeout, but at least healthier takeout choices. They are NOT all the same, but at least they are meeting the goal of portion-controlled healthier fuel. If you want to add MVs to all four options, great, although that is no longer really a “goal” that is suitable for PACE as you are in a binary world — you either take your MVs or not.
So, while it looks like you CAN use PACE for multiple options, you may have to alter your goal or your alignment of options to the goal so they are all equivalent. Which is not often the way personal goals tend to work.
Now I have to figure out if it will work for MY personal goals. Wish me luck.