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#MoreJoy – Day 31 of 31 – NaNoWriMo

The PolyBlog
November 1 2021

For those of you not familiar with the acronym, NaNoWriMo stands for National Novel Writing in a Month. Ignoring the awkward construction of the title, the premise is simple. People around the world are encouraged to write, write, write every day for the month of November — binge-writing, if you will — to produce a 50,000-word manuscript.

There are LOTS of views about NaNoWriMo, ranging from “everybody just writes crap, it’s quality that counts” to “what a great way to just blast through and remember what’s fun about writing.” There is an equal number of views about HOW to do NaNoWriMo, including from those who plot and plan in advance (plotters/planners) or who write by the seat of their pants (panters).

But I really enjoy the premise. This isn’t a Hallmark commercial thing, the “organization” that came up with the idea is a not-for-profit. Sure, there are lots of commercial options out there tied to NaNoWriMo for trackers, notebooks, mugs, websites, webinars, writing groups, etc., but at its core? It’s writers talking to writers and encouraging them to do nothing more than put their butt in their seats and write. Maybe the 50K will never amount to anything more than the wordcount itself. Maybe you’ll never turn the doc into a book or even look at it again. It’s a small writing milestone where the journey is the goal, not the destination.

Most Novembers, I ignore it. At least, I don’t aim for 50K, I don’t join the community groups, I don’t post updates, I don’t “do” NaNoWriMo in conventional terms. I often try to write a bit more, maybe blogging, for example. Or editing.

This November, I’m fully committing to writing SOMETHING, I just have to choose which WIP, as I have three that are up for grabs. Although, technically, there are six, I suppose, but three aren’t ready for primetime.

My HR Guide

I have been promising / threatening to finish the damned doc for four years now, and I never quite get around to writing it from beginning to end. There’s a solid old draft, and I do bits and pieces, but then I think of something else and I restart a section. Or COVID hits and everything changes for the process. Or there are tons of “new” features to talk about in each section. It is truly evergreen, but I want to FINISH a version in time to release it on January 1st as the 2022 edition. Fortunately enough, it was about 50K words for the 2017 edition. Not a novel, not a lot of “fun”, but a workable product.

My Astronomy Guide

This one is probably too nascent in development to really start blasting through. A couple of the sections I could do easily enough, but there are some that require a lot more research before I can write them. Not really the best option for a NaNoWriMo binge if I have to keep stopping to research stuff. I’ll pass on this one.

Novel 1 and 2

I have two novels in mind for a character, whose initials are CC, and that’s about all I’m going to say at this point. I started writing #2 some time ago, and I was struggling with too much exposition to try and deal with some extended backstory. Until I realized that the main problem was that the novel shouldn’t really be the first book in the series. I actually needed to start with Novel #1, because a whole bunch of stuff that comes up in CC01 is enough to have a whole separate novel, and much easier to plot in linear order than constant flashbacks as a first novel. So CC02 is definitely “out of contention”, I have to do CC01 first. The problem? Well, there isn’t one. I could easily choose CC01 as a perfectly valid choice for NaNoWriMo. It’ll probably be closer to 80K, but that’s a small detail to be ignored. My only hesitation is that I feel like if I get sucked into the novel, I might never come back to finish my HR guide. Perhaps “work before pleasure” is the better side of writing valour?

My Performance Guide

This one is so far removed from development, it barely qualifies as an idea. And yet a little bit of work and I’d be off to the races. But I would never finish my other guides, and the performance guide can wait until I retire. I may even have a chance to do some preliminary work that will make such an endeavour easier but might be a conflict of interest, although more “perception” than “real”. So that one is out too.

Novel Series, YOTG #1-12

For a very long time, I have had a movie projected in my head. It’s disjointed, some parts are missing, but it is a story told in at least 12 parts. Over the last 18m of COVID, my view of that series has changed. I thought it was something I wouldn’t touch until I retire. And yet a few times recently, I’ve had a sudden flash of a scene that was missing, giving me an enhanced feel for YOTG01. I know what happens generally in #01 (80%), 04 (30%), and 12 (60%). I don’t feel I’m ready to write these novels, that I can’t do them justice yet, my writing ability isn’t good enough for them. So, again, a pass. I won’t be able to wait until my retirement to start them, but perhaps 2023 at least. I’m ruling this one out.

WIP Showdown

The showdown is between my HR Guide and my first CC novel. The pros and cons are relatively clear…

I want to finish the HR Guide, it is more “pressing” so to speak, and if I spend the next month on the CC novel and perhaps carrying over into December, I might not finish the HR guide by January.

The HR Guide is a manageable project, I know exactly what is required, and I can finish within the month. It’s almost a guaranteed win. The CC novel, by contrast, is still stuck in the opening chapters, and I am not sure yet if I’m sure who the extra suspects are, let alone how I get them all to the murder scene to make them viable suspects. Which means I could get stuck half-way through and NOT reach my NaNoWriMo goal.

By contrast, the HR Guide is NOT a novel, nor is it a new project. The whole point of NaNoWriMo is to blast through something new. Am I cheating by having something in draft mode, even if I have to completely re-write major portions of it? Novels work well for the binge. A guide? Not so much.

Yet the CC novel would be scary fun. I literally have no idea where parts of it will go, and I know sitting down at the keyboard, the words will come from somewhere. I know my style well enough to know that I can “dream my solution” as I type, although it may mean going back to cut some of the drivel once I know the path. Smoothing out the story trajectory, as they say; eliminating meandering streams of consciousness, as I say.

Pressing and manageable vs. new and fun?

And the winner is…

The HR guide. Another thought occurred to me, which is that if I do the novel first, I’ll likely push the guide back another six months. On the other hand, if I finish the guide in November and edit it in December for release in January, I just might be enamoured enough of the novel to start writing right away.

So I’m going to finish the HR guide for NaNoWriMo. Jacob is going to join me in the writing quest. He’s working on a novel, probably middle-grade level, with a likely length somewhere around 30-40K. He has a title and even the cover. I don’t know if he’ll stick with it, but I’m already proud of him for trying. Of course, he’s already a published author as part of a group writing course he did last summer, so he’s got a leg up on me. Maybe he’ll give me tips as we go. Andrea’s going to write some stuff for ToastMasters as well.

Writing as a family for NaNoWriMo? That sounds like #MoreJoy to me.

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#MoreJoy – Day 30 of 31 – Are you a closet dasher?

The PolyBlog
October 30 2021

Okay, so the heading was a bit cryptic to see if you clicked. 🙂 By “dasher”, I mean somebody who likes, designs and uses dashboards.

Obviously, the simplest dashboard is a to-do list. A simple list by itself doesn’t qualify — it shows info, but not status. But as soon as you add a check-box of some sort to show pending vs. completed? Now you’re in dashboard territory.

Those two elements — simple info plus some sort of metric — are the two essential elements of a dashboard. Some people argue that it requires a graphical representation, or an indicator of completion, but that is getting too close to specific forms of dashboards. Your car dashboard indicates speed graphically, which is true, maybe your tachometer in a graphical representation (both usually dials), but it also indicates if your headlights are on or how much gas you have, maybe what your tire pressure levels are currently registering. Even distance. Not all of those are “status of completion”, they’re just a metric.

For those who aren’t really into “planning”, they often think that anyone who makes a list is some form of planner. That the list i.e., the plan, is the most important part. It isn’t. True planners know that the most important part is not the end, but the means and the process. Just as military commanders know that no battle plan ever survives engagement with the enemy, a true planner knows that the value of a plan is the process that went into the actual creation. Knowing what troops you have, how you can deploy them, what resources they’ll need, etc. The end doesn’t justify the means, the means justifies the end product.

I have a huge to-do list, I confess. And it is divided into multiple categories so I’m comparing apples to apples when setting priorities, and into multiple columns for levels of priority within that category. Part of the benefit of that long list is to get it out of my head on to paper so I can easily see what I have in each category and which priorities I might want to tackle this week. But that “list”, even as a to-do list, is not really a dashboard because there’s no real element of it meant to be visual and it runs multiple pages.

To me, you have to be able to see the entire dashboard at a glance. If you can’t, you can’t tell quickly what’s going well and what isn’t, or where you might want to give more attention or take your foot off the gas in another. As such, when I’ve played with my to-do list, I’ve also often had a one-page summary at the front. While it is a dashboard of sorts, it is overly detailed (lots of priorities, not much info) and extremely simplistic (mostly checkboxes). It doesn’t inspire me in any fashion, I don’t look at it and go “There! THERE’s where my attention should be this week!”.

For my attempts at increasing my workout routine, I created a couple of different types of dashboard. The first two are more like info posters than true dashboards, as I don’t modify them regularly. They are overviews for my stretching and workout routines, including the pictures of the exercise for easy memory, and the # of reps or weights I’m using for each. It serves more as an instructional dashboard to get me through the routines than to tell me how I’m doing. It has info and metrics, but it isn’t a “management” tool so to speak. It just tells me where I’m at currently.

I created an actual dashboard for my health, which DOES include a lot of other measures, and which I can update monthly. I’ve even added a basic street-light-inspired heat map of progress – green is good, yellow is caution, red is cause for attention.

Dashboard 21-09

I’ve only used it for one month so far, and I ran into some other challenges this month unrelated to the content of the dashboard, so it will take some time to know if this is the right set of metrics going forward.

Wanting a writing dashboard

But I felt I wanted and needed a new dashboard. One that would help me with my writing goals. I focus a lot of time and attention on the content of my websites, but I rarely think about it terms of actual “goals” or “metrics”. I liked it when I hit 500K words, and again when I hit 1M. My visitor stats go up and down, and while I’m regularly above double digits, another week comes along, and I barely have single-digit coverage. I’m okay with that, partly as I am not blogging to become famous, build a brand or run a business. I’m posting what I want, even if it isn’t completely “brand-friendly”.

I have a post coming tomorrow that will talk about a series of posts in November, but I wanted to see “where I was”, a snapshot so-to-speak on my writing goals.

Writing dashboard - October 2021

It is NOT very sophisticated, I admit. The top part is really just a current status of how many words I’ve written or the number of posts. When I split my website into two — PolyWogg.ca and ThePolyBlog.ca — I lost the combined totals showing up easily. I knew I was over 1.5M words, and over 1500 posts, but I had not tried to calculate a combined total recently (1.67M words + 1626 posts and pages), plus 528 comments. I suck at engagement, but hey, it’s something. I was also curious to see that my “blog” posts, albeit spread across two sites, is at 1042 by itself. I hadn’t really thought of extracting that number from the data previously. But this post, for example, is exactly that type of post. It’s not a review, it’s not a page, it’s just me blogging about, well, me.

While some of that is purely me being anal to see the numbers, the one that was amazing to see was the Reviews total. I often feel “down” about my review numbers. I started the original site to post book and movie reviews, and when I started, I had some 75 movie reviews in the can (but not copied over) and book reviews ready to GO, with hundreds of books ready to be reviewed. Fast-forward almost 20y, and I’ve only posted 199 book reviews? Really? How is that possible?

And movie reviews, some of that is format, design, time, lack of priority, but less than 10? Wow.

Yet I rarely think about what I am doing instead. A couple of music and podcast reviews, but almost 50 related to “general TV watching” and predictions of where shows will go or get cancelled. Huh. And then the real kicker.

I have 233 reviews of TV premieres and another 23 of full seasons of shows. What? I have MORE full TV reviews than I do book reviews? Really? When did THAT happen? Apparently, almost two years ago, and I never even noticed. I have never really thought of them as full reviews as they are more breezy and less structured. Yet I’ve generated 250 of them without even blinking in the last 8 years. Yet I never give myself credit for it.

At the bottom, I just added references to my current works in progress. I wrote it as if I knew what I was going to write about in November, a novel in particular code-named CC, or two other guides that I count as “works in progress”. I’m still debating which I’m going to use November to blast through. My HR guide isn’t really amenable to the next phase, but I might choose it anyway. I don’t feel like I’m ready for the Astro Guide in full yet, but the novel isn’t quite right either.

For now, I listed two types of metrics — word counts in one area, and table of contents as checkboxes in another.

As I said, the dashboard isn’t quite right, but it doesn’t have to be. The point of doing it was to push my planning a little farther from a simple to-do list and more towards thinking about actual outputs in my writing. Just gathering the data gave me a couple of surprises and a new way of thinking about what I am doing as a writer and where I want to expend my energy.

It’s not the prettiest dashboard, but it does give me #MoreJoy.

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#MoreJoy – Day 29 of 31 – Music lessons

The PolyBlog
October 30 2021

I have almost no musical ability at all. I can’t sing, I have no rhythm for dancing, I can’t play any instruments. I hope to learn how to play a song or two on our piano just to keep my brain agile as I get older and for fun, but I admire those who can play anything. Even a kazoo if they can do it well.

So I’m not saying that I am taking music lessons and am enjoying them.

No, I mean that I enjoy that Jacob is doing music lessons. I like listening to him practice, I like his recitals when he participates. I like occasionally when I’m listening that he’ll play a couple of the older songs he learned a few years ago that I really enjoyed. Like even This Is It (the Looney Tunes song).

He’s not ready for a concert hall performance, of course, but he could be doing chopsticks, and I’d enjoy it. Well, for the first hour anyway. Just hearing him play anything brings me #MoreJoy.

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#MoreJoy – Day 28 of 31 – SupperWorks

The PolyBlog
October 30 2021

I mentioned earlier that I do most of my grocery ordering online, and have been since about week 7 or 8 of the pandemic. Over the years (of life, not the pandemic), Andrea and I have experimented with a few “food boxes” to have them delivered to the house. Some were “fresh veggie” orders and others were special meal collections, but while the convenience was good and the contents were quality, we found sometimes the portions were off or we were getting things we wouldn’t normally choose to eat — sometimes we were choosing three dishes out of 7 for example, but only really liked two of them. The other five weren’t terrible, we didn’t hate them, it was edible, but they were often not dishes we would care to repeat. Or, for one box, the prep time was frequently off the chart. It would say “ten minutes”, and then Andrea and I together would spend 30-40 minutes. Not a great solution for a week night.

SupperWorks had a different model. It was designed, generally speaking, for you to book a spot in their calendar, go to their store, and assemble the ingredients into packages yourself. They would have perhaps 8-10 “work stations” set up for different meals, such as a glazed pork chop recipe at one station and a stew at another. You would go in, go to a free station set up for a specific recipe, and follow the directions. Kind of like an IKEA store but you assemble all the ingredients in the box yourself. For example, you would put two tablespoons of soy sauce into a bag, and then add the pork chops, a dozen or so other pre-chopped ingredients, and seal the bag while attaching a label with the cooking instructions. If you wanted a bit more soy or a little less maple sugar, you could adjust your assembly accordingly.

You do this a few more times around the store, essentially pre-assembling all the ingredients for a few meals, and you’re good to check out. When you get home, you freeze everything you can and any time you want to make one, you take out a bag, thaw it in the fridge a day or two before, and then just follow the instructions. Everythings is already pre-assembled with the right quantities and ready to cook.

It’s more expensive than buying all the ingredients yourself, but it is all pre-assembled and ready to cook. No re-measuring, you’ve essentially prepped all the meals in advance, with the store doing most of the sous-chef duties for you. At first glance, as I said, it might seem expensive, but my wife does most of the cooking and is generally frugal, and even she considers it value-for-money for prep and meal-planning options.

Some people used to make social outings of it. Find a friend or three, book a night, and go and assemble while chatting. It’s hard to have more than two people at any one station, and you might not all want the same recipes, but it was easy enough to find open slots. Weekends, weekdays, weekday evenings.

The pandemic messed that business model up entirely, of course. People couldn’t be in the store wandering around and touching all the food stations, even with having to wash your hands between stations so there’s no cross-contamination of foods (to prevent allergic reactions). You could always pay them in the past to pre-assemble the meals for you, but the cost differential was not insignificant. Take into account the fact that you were already paying a premium for their sous-chef duties, and the price of pre-assembled packages could get out of hand quickly. Not to mention the need for a large freezer to keep everything!

SupperWorks pivoted with the pandemic and now everything is pre-assembled for you. It’s the only option. But we like the meals, partly because we get to CHOOSE which foods are in our order. No need to pick something you don’t like to fill a quota; no need to pick something with a huge prep time.

Prices vary as do personal thresholds for cost. They have a cheesy mashed potato-bacon casserole that we like, and yes, we could easily make it ourselves. This is more like a store-bought one, but tastes fresher. It runs $14.00 and is big enough for all three of us for a meal. That’s not bad for price. Meanwhile, we also have Cranberry Chicken with Apples, done up as a split meal (instead of serving 4-6, we split it into two orders to serve 2-3, which is just right for the three of us usually). With the full meal split, we get six servings for $48.00. Some orders come up with sides, some don’t. Lots of DIY sites could offer the same meal so you could get it down to less than $4 per person instead of $8, mostly by buying in bulk, buying stuff on sale or in lower-quality cuts of meat, and substituting sweat equity for cost up-front.

We find that we (aka I) tend to slightly over-order in a month, so if I do two months in a row, we tend not to order the third month as we are too backed up in the freezer department. If you reorder from month 1 to month 2, you get a discount for month 2. Similarly for subsequent months. Discounts range from 10-25%; my discount for October was 15%, and I ordered five different types of meals.

First, there are the full meals split into two meals each. For this category, I ordered Cranberry Chicken with Apples, Maple-Kissed Pork Chops, Creamy Lemony Dilly Chicken & Orzo, and Italian Herb-Crusted Pork Tenderloin. They’re a bit heavier than we normally eat, so we don’t often do more than two in a week, and often only one, hence why with four meals split into eight dinners of three portions, we often end up having to skip a month after two orders in a row.

Andrea and I are often of two minds on these ones. The meals are excellent, no issue there, and it’s nice to have all the prep work done, BUT Andrea also sells Epicure and it wouldn’t be that difficult to Epicurify the recipe to do it ourselves. Except we would have to do all the prep, have all the other ingredients ready, plan in advance to do all of that, etc. These are easier, and particularly so for mid-week meals. The only other catch is that Andrea’s version would likely be better than these ones, after a bit of experimentation. Still, it’s a pretty good set of dishes and makes for easy meal-planning.

The second category is what I considered fully pre-assembled meals, like the Cheesy Mashed Potato-Bacon Casserole. Basically, you open it up, wrap it in tinfoil, throw it in the oven, and you’re done. They’ve already got it fully ready to cook, no additional assembly is required. These are pretty close to just store-bought, and can’t be split.

The third category would be soups and sides. I ordered Asiago-Herb Mashed Potatoes and Andrea chose a Butternut Squash and Coconut Soup + Italian Wedding Soup. But the one I am excited by, and I’m surprised to ever utter these words, is a Maple-Crumble Mashed Sweet Potatoes. Here’s the thing. We don’t really like Sweet Potatoes. Yet I accidentally ended up with it as a side for something small last month, and it was AWESOME. So I ordered a full-sized one for this month.

The fourth category on the list is lunch-time meals. They’re kind of like small TV dinners, I suppose, except it’s higher-end obviously and often smaller versions of the larger dishes for the month. They’re about $9-$10, you throw them in the microwave to cook them from frozen, and they are good lunch-time options for work to have something hot for lunch when we don’t have a lot of time. I picked up an Apple Maple-Glazed Chicken, Dad’s Favorite Meatloaf, and a Quinoa Veggie Stew (yeah, that one’s not for me hehehe). I did a turkey dinner one in October around Thanksgiving which is how I ended up trying the sweet potato side, and they’re pretty good for a change of pace.

And finally they also have some dessert options. Most of the time, these are like the storebought solutions, pop them in the oven to bake, and voila! One Fudgey-Fudge Brownies. Pretty rich, though. SupperWorks also usually throws in some sort of extra bonus, which is often six chocolate chip cookies, ready to bake. Pretty good ones too, no mess or mixing required.

Some people do hard-core ordering each month with 2-3 per week because they love the time advantage of avoiding prep or the convenience of weekday cooking after working all day. Some do it because they love the taste.

We’re not hard-core, but we are regular customers. Because the meals bring us #MoreJoy. And inspire us sometimes to find a personal recipe version of the meal to do on our own.

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#MoreJoy – Day 27 of 31 – Jacob’s growth

The PolyBlog
October 28 2021

It likely goes without saying that parents get more out of kids than they ever expected, and that is certainly true for me. I couldn’t fathom my life without Jacob right now, how empty it would be in comparison. That isn’t a slam against anyone else, not my wife, friends or family, just a reality. He is the centre of our being.

I like seeing him get taller, so there is the physical growth. Getting out of the carseats I mentioned earlier this month, going towards more independence.

But a bunch of little things happened this week. We tried on last year’s winter coat, the one we’ve had for two years at least for him, and he’s finally outgrown it. Similarly for his snowpants. We already got him a fall jacket, and he’s wearing that this week without a liner, and he has one to get him into colder fall before he switches to the winter one. We already have a new hat for him and gloves. We’ll need new boots likely later this week. Those are small things, but it isn’t something we do often. They are small milestones. We picked up some pants and some shirts while we were at it, and he went in the change room all by himself instead of with Mom or I helping him. Another little milestone.

On a far bigger scale though, he has agreed he needs a bigger desk. Something that Andrea and I knew 8-12m ago, but whatever. He’s agreed. And he wants a monitor and separate gaming keyboard and mouse. He’ll keep using his laptop for now as his CPU, but we’ll add peripherals around it for him.

For both the monitor and the desk, he went online and found what interested him. He compared features, price, reviews, etc. Some of them didn’t have much info, but his rationale for each choice is sound. Maybe not exactly what Andrea and I would suggest, but it’s his decision, and they’re viable. Maybe they work out awesome, maybe they don’t work out great. Either way, we ordered the desk and bought a new monitor, keyboard and mouse today. He’d like us to buy him a full gaming PC too, but I’ve argued him back to trying it the way it is for a few more months and I’m hoping I can extend that to 2y when he starts school. Of course, if he starts playing Call of Duty-type games that have more graphics needs, I might not be able to hold out that long.

But he asked good questions at Best Buy and Canada Computers, he had opinions about what he wanted and didn’t, and overall, I was a trusted advisor/interface for his negotiations to help him get the info that he wanted, but in the end, it was mostly his decision.

And afterwards, I talked to him about things like commissioned sales, things we sometimes have happen when we’re dealing with salespeople who are eager to sell vs. eager to help. He saw that the first person we dealt with at Best Buy was more like “here’s what you should get” before even asking what we wanted vs. the person at Canada Computers who asked us how we would use it, gave us all the pros and cons, dealt with some misinfo I had about GSync vs. FreeSync tech for compatibility, etc. It was why we went to CC after BB…the salesperson at BB “flamed out”, and so we went looking for more help, which was what CC provided.

Yet, even with all that aside, one of the best parts of the day was that Jacob had a long conversation with one of his teachers today. He’s struggling a bit in PE with things everyone else can do and he can’t. Or at least, not anywhere near their level. A test done a few weeks ago was done to be inclusive but accidentally singled him out as not being able to do it…he bombed out at level 1.3, while the next person didn’t bomb out until 24 levels later (3.7, with ten sub-levels in each phase). So we’ve exchanged as parents with the teacher, just conversing about other options for him, and today Jacob told him what he wanted. Which is a milestone of self-advocacy on its own, and was his choice. He didn’t need us to write back on his behalf, he can do that himself in person. Which he did.

But the awesome part was that when he got in the car tonight, he COULDN’T WAIT to tell me about his day. He talked to the teacher and told him what he wanted to do. And then they talked about this, and the teacher told him about that. And then this happened, etc. A whole story from the conversation with the teacher, sharing blow-by-blow with us. After computer shopping, he went into the house, and went STRAIGHT to Andrea to retell it all again.

I sent an email to the teacher tonight to share the “bump” that Jacob had after the conversation, and to basically say, “Nice job, dude!”. That is the second time that he has been superexcited to talk about someone, and both times it was because they knew what CP even WAS. I think we’re seeing some craving there for a CP-type connection, or at least a connection that is direct to Jacob’s experiences.

It’s been a big couple of months for Jacob with back to school, and a new school at that. He’s adjusted to a lot. And he’s handling it well, for the most part.

Being proud of him gives me #MoreJoy. How could it not?

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  • QotD: Tell your stories (PWQ00061)January 14, 2026
  • 2026: K is for kayakJanuary 14, 2026
    I was having trouble deciding what to write for “K”. Kayak is an obvious one, although I’ll come back to that in a moment. I considered going whimsical with kicking back or being kooky. Some sort of cute title that suggests that I shouldn’t take myself so seriously and instead try to find some silly … Continue reading →
  • The Dying Hour by Rick Mofina (2005) – BR00292 (R2026) – 🐸🐸🐸⚪⚪January 14, 2026
    Plot or Premise A college student drives off suddenly into the night, never to be seen again, while her car is found abandoned at the side of the road. Did she meet someone? Walk off into the woods? Commit suicide? What I Liked The main part is Jason Wade, a reporter who starts to link … Continue reading →
  • QotD: Fixing pages (PWQ00060)January 13, 2026
  • JotD: Poor nuns (PWH00050)January 13, 2026

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